One house - six girls - loads of fun!

I live with with five other girls. And without any doubts its the best thing that could have happen to me in Mumbai.

Apart from just being roommates to each other, we are a lot of things. Like -

• Alarm - "Whoever leaves for work at or around 8.30 am tomorrow morning, please wake me up!" (Who needs to be woken up at 8.30 am on a summer morning??!! WE. )
• Fashion Police - Rule of the house. Once you start staying with US, you cannot leave the house, without getting an approval from all the people in the house at that moment on everything (shoes, belts etc. included). You cannot. Even if you are late for the day, you just CANNOT leave the house. If you want, either leave without the approval anyway (and bear the consequences - the garment may just get stuck in something and tear) or leave when others are sleeping and be answerable to everyone in the evening. The best solution to this is to decide a night before. ;)
• Garment hire store- Well, I don't need to elaborate on this coz isn't this obvious that if you have the same size as others and you share the same room then your cupboard is theirs also? Duh! 
• 2 am or 5 am First Aid Kit/Nurse/Health Adviser/Etc - Got one of "those" cramps at the weirdest hour of the night, feel free to wake up someone and ask for the hot water bag, or pain killer. And This One is by experience - I had been diagnosed with dengue fever last October and the temperature was supposed to be controlled. I had three roommates healing me with ice packs on head, hands and legs each. 
• Critics - What's with that habit of not answering when someone is calling you out or talking in that volume or using swear words so many times or obsessing over that guy so much.... this list can go on and on. 
• Fan Club - We all are each other's biggest fan ever. Doesn't matter if no one complimented you on that hair cut, or dress, or that break-up (!), we always will. And we may travel 5kms to eat kulfi and celebrate. Doesn't really matter if the cab fare exceeds the cost of all our kulfis. 
• Database for everything- When i say everything, its EVERYTHING. For best travel option to reach a place, food joints in any part of Mumbai (with their numbers), hair stylist, gynecologist, Zumba class, Bakery  and blah blah blah...
• Service providers- Head, neck, back massages; Tarot Reading; hair straightening; photographer (who do u think will click that picture once you are in that dress :D); doorman on a weekend night for 2.30 am entry into the house - are some of the regular services that we have. But mind you, its only for US.

I am sure I am talking for all of us, when i say, we shall never forget any of the above and loads of other stuff - midnight ice creams, Maggie, chocolates, crying over work issues, guy issues and then getting consoled and sleeping with a smile, bitching, gossiping, dinners, night outs,breakfasts, carom and card games, crazy selfies.  

I don't think I can say anything else other than "Thank you! :* and Love you" to all of them and God.

 

Where do you stand? And are you happy with it?

What do u do when you are an option? Do u stay an option or do you work on being a priority? Or do u stop being an option too?

All these questions apart, how does it affect you when you are an option - always? Why is it that you are an option always? Why cant you be a priority? Are u not good enough? What kind of aura envelops you which always makes you an option?

Sometimes, you might be a priority and not realize it. Sometimes you are a priority and you don't want to be. Sometimes you might be a priority but made to feel like an option. And sometimes you might be made to feel like a priority but actually you might be an option! How do you find out what is the case actually? And which of these is a better situation to be in?

Is there a test to find out all of these? Or are there only feelings? If there are only feelings, then why don't we like what we feel? And if at all we like what we feel, why is it that that feeling does not stay with us? Why is it difficult to accept the situation we are in? Why does our head and heart go in two different directions? And if they go in two different directions then what should we follow? Mostly, I guess we should follow the head. But in the matters of heart, why should we follow the head? Isn't the heart suppose to know better in the matters of heart? And even if we follow the head, why doesn't the heart just go with it? Why did God make two things that completely contradict each other in their functioning and ideologies and then put them within us-the human being? Its like, we are a living example of the biggest oxymoron in the entire universe!!

And then within us, put so many other contradictory feelings and logic and then to complicate everything, put us in a contradictory situation. Wow!

If you actually sit and start analyzing all these, I doubt you will remain sane. So then again we come to the same first question- what do you do?

Its like a circle of everything going on and you decide, whether u want to continue living in the circle or break the circle and make a new one- may be not a circle but try make it straight. But again! Doesn't a straight line medically mean we are dead?? 

You have changed!

I have been hearing that a lot these days -You have changed! 

Changed from being a girl from a "small town" to a girl from Bombay. From a girl who had thick bushy eyebrows to someone with eyebrows so well done like "God made them with a lot of care and time" (those are not my words, btw). Changed from a girl with "weird' sense of dressing to some one "stylish". From wearing glasses to contact lenses to having a nose piercing. Changed from some one with bad curls and rough hair texture to "quiet straight" haired girl. Changed from naive to "glamorous" and "sophisticated". 

What has caused this change? Bombay? People in Bombay? Working in the fashion industry? Or what? may be all of these and more - slowly, steadily. Nothing over night though. 

Also what i would like to put on record today is that these are all superficial things which may be important but not necessary. What is necessary, still remains unchanged inside me. The self confidence, the motivation, the desire to be different and unconventional, the belief that I am born to do things differently. 

What has changed, improved and does matter really is the fact that I have a point of view that I can boast is my own and not borrowed from someone. I have a smile which has been beautiful always (I am proud of it and i have no shame in saying that either), and which has got better with the confidence. What is still undergoing a developmental change is the ability to control my mind, the realization that patience, words you use and accountability are some of the most important aspects in any relationship - personal or professional, open to self assessment at all points in life. 

When I have mastered all these, is when i will truly justify the statement - "You have changed!"

Some things/ppl/incidents that might have "changed" me. ;)

Running the Standard Chartered Mumbai Marathon for awareness about Child Sexual Abuse

24th Birthday

Super cool, sexy and fun room-mates

Fashion photographer, boss, mentor